Tonight the High School student ministry talked about sex, lust, and dating. Below you will find the 4 main points of our discussion. Please use these main points to start or continue discussion about these important topics with your teenager.
So what does
the Bible say about sex?
God created it
God designed it to be in the context
of biblical marriage.
Main Point 1: God created sex to be experienced inside the context of a biblical marriage.
Main Point 2: Lust is a perversion of love and is our human attempt to get what God designed and desires to give us through a relationship with Him and in marriage. Therefore it is sin.
Main Point 3: Dating is the mechanism used for determining who we should marry. Only those who know the Gospel, are pursuing the Gospel, have adult Christian accountability within a relationship, and are dating with that end in mind should date. That excludes most high school students.
Main Point 4: Girls should guard their hearts, so should guys. Guys should guard their minds, so should girls.
You are invited and ENCOURAGED to join us for Resonate the
next few Wednesday night’s!
6pm – 7:30pm Youth Worship Room
Over the next 5 weeks we are going to walk through some
pretty sensitive and difficult topics; the least of these this Wednesday
night. Here are our topics for the rest
of the series:
April 17 – Culture
April 24 – Vices (alcohol, marijuana, drugs)
May 1 – Sex, Lust, Dating
May 8 – Homosexuality
May 15 – Pornography (Guest Speaker from Hope Unlimited)
I wanted to let you know this in advance because I wanted to
give you the option for your teen to “opt
out” or “opt in” to these
discussions. I hope you will “opt in.” There is no one who is immune
from these issues and no one that hasn’t been impacted by them in some
To say these topics are difficult is an understatement. To
say they are important is also an understatement. Our teens are being bombarded daily by
culture on what to believe, how to feel, and what’s acceptable as it relates to
these topics. And parents it’s your job,
not cultures, to help shape and direct your teenagers beliefs on these and many
other important topics. Sound like a tough job? It is. But we want to help.
Your involvement over the next few weeks will help
communicate to your students that you care what they think about these
important topics. Encouraging your teens to come, or even forcing them, will also
help communicate that you care what the Bible has to say about these topics. And
that matters, because believe it or not, you are still the greatest influence
in your teenager’s life when it comes to their beliefs on sexuality.
Let me say that again, what you believe and encourage is the #1 influencer in your teenager’s life about what they believe and actually do.
Navigating these issues is a tough job. We want to give you a place to start a conversation. Each week I will also provide some follow-up discussion questions so you will know what was said and a few questions to ask. You can get those from this website.
We hope you will take this opportunity to continue or start
these important conversations with your students.
I’m just going to get right to the point. Wednesday night we are talking about homosexuality.
I wanted to let you know this in advance because I wanted to give you the option for your child to “opt out” or “opt in” to this discussion. I hope you will “opt in.” There is no one who is immune from this issue and no one that hasn’t been impacted by it in some way.
One of my goals is to equip your son or daughter to be able to engage the culture around them from a Biblical viewpoint; a culture that is increasingly favorable to same-sex relationships. By equipping your child to engage culture, we are creating opportunities to share the Gospel through a viewpoint of homosexuality that is based out of love and the truth of God’s Word.
A few things you might want to know:
We will frame the discussion from the aspect of “Same Sex Attraction” as opposed to “Being Gay.” I think this is an important differentiation of the issue, one that speaks to where we find our identity and what we call sin.
We will call homosexual activity a sin.
All main points will be taken directly from God’s Word. I will not be sharing my opinion on the subject, but rather communicate what I see clearly from God’s Word.
The Main Points are:
Homosexual desire is not what God originally intended.
Our distorted desires are a sign that we have turned away from God.
Homosexual sin is serious.
Homosexual sin is not unique.
Homosexual sin is not inescapable.
Homosexuality is contrary to biblical teaching and the Gospel
There will be an emphasis on grace and love for those struggling with this issue and an encouragement for Christians to approach the issue with the same sensitivity. Often times it’s not just what is said, but also how it’s said.
In an ever changing culture, it is important to be able to give a defense to the hope we have in Christ. As Peter states in 1 Peter 3:15-16,
“Always be ready to give a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you. 16 However, do this with gentleness and respect, keeping your conscience clear, so that when you are accused, those who denounce your Christian life will be put to shame.”
It is our desire to present this hope and this message with gentleness and respect, ultimately pointing people toward Jesus and away from their sin.
If you have further questions or would like to talk with me personally, feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Minister of High School Students
Lone Oak FBC